This is a note to all of us prone to self-loathing. To cringing at the face we see in the mirror. Why, oh why is it so difficult to simply like ourselves – just the way we are? One theory is that we are evolutionarily predisposed to nitpick at our failings. We are so damn hard on ourselves and we can be our very own worst critic.
As if life wasn’t problematic enough, we still insist on comparing our lives to others and beating ourselves up most every day.
How did we create this fantasy that if we punish ourselves enough with negative thoughts, we’ll change?
What we should become more critical of is our own thoughts.
If you are going to criticize anything about yourself and your place in the world, it should be the bleak narrative you have looping around your brain.
Question your assumptions, your biases, choices.
Learn how to clarify your thoughts by uncovering the logic that upholds what you believe, rather than just accepting your muddled ideas of the truth. The next time you catch yourself cutting your self-worth down, filling your head with self-doubt, ask yourself –Why do I believe this to be true?
When you begin to question your own mind,
you begin to become the best self-critic you can be.
What purpose do your current thoughts serve you?
What are you assuming to be true to think this way?
From which perspective are you thinking from?
What evidence do you have to draw the conclusions you do?
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