It happens to all of us. We get caught up in our own drama. Most of the time we are doing one thing, but thinking about another. We are driving the car but thinking about how we have to work over the weekend. We are making dinner but fighting with our ex about how it was their fault. We are meeting with a friend over cocktails but were wondering if were going to meet “the one” tonight.
We are every where but here and the last thing we are is relaxed in our own skin.
We aren’t calm, centered and balanced. Every time we get caught up in the frenzy and fantasy, the theater of our mind, we abort ourselves from reality.
And like any good theater production, the dialogue around drama in our mind is powerful.
There aren’t many peaceful, calm moments in our mind, but we all yearn for them.
Evidently, the search engine query “How to be calm all the time” is a very popular one. Now why would that be?
It turns out one of the biggest stressors is lack of money. Yes, money is the biggest source of stress for Americans, research shows. Indeed, a survey by Northwestern Mutual found that money was the dominant source of stress for 44% of Americans, followed by the 25% who said personal relationships, and just 18% blaming work. And data from the American Psychological Association also shows that money is the No. 1 stressor for Americans: “Regardless of the economic climate, money and finances have remained the top stressor since our survey began in 2007,” the results revealed.
We all know what stress can do to us. Read more about how chronic stress can debilitate your life, and is the main cause of chronic health conditions and addictions here.
It seems that so many people are seeking that sense of peace throughout their day, including myself.
We want that feeling that everything is okay, I can take care of it all and I can stay confident, balanced, and chill while I am doing it. We are all looking for ways to be calm in all sorts of situations. Search engine queries around staying calm and centered also include. . .
How to be calm during an interview.
How to be calm at work.
How to be calm and collected.
How to be calm during a presentation.
How to be calm before a test.
How to be calm and assertive.
How to be calm before surgery.
We are all looking for just a beautiful sense of centered peace and being. Leo Babauta of Zen Habits has some very good advice about how to stay calm. Read here.
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