More than 40% of our lives are spent in habit. Habits are those things we do, mindlessly, without any thought. Bingeing on Neflix, emotional shopping and overspending, obsessively checking your Instagram, that second glass of wine every night, working 15 hours a day, never holding eye contact, obliviously eavesdropping, eating too quickly, forgetting to floss, overpromising and under delivering, drunken raging at your partner, the list goes on. . .
Some habits are not as harmful as others, but many of them can cause some pretty big issues – like feeling drowsy at work from lack of sleep, large credit card balances that are impossible to pay down, digestive issues and early onset of gum disease and many a bad and torturous break up .
The worst approach you can take towards breaking bad habits is to rush – the race to the finish line approach. The force it in your brain with daily affirmations and ten minute meditations, this doesn’t work for long lasting change.
When you set out to be a better person than you once were, change doesn’t come easy. Correcting parts of your personality that don’t suit you anymore requires a change in thoughts, emotions, behaviors and habits – everything that creates the foundation of who you are.
You can’t bring anxious energy to long lasting change. Pushing, forcing and shoving your way to a new version of you doesn’t have the strong and deep energy to create that staying power. It doesn’t carve the deep enough grooves in our neural pathways to make the change stick.
I found what has been working best for me is the slow, deliberate and intentional approach.
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