What do I know about love? Never said. No, no. no. Dad demanded respect and mom was angry at dad. With all that yelling and screaming, it felt as if love was too weak walk the halls of our home. Love was too soft for stomping feet, midnight tears and hands that punched the sky.
It wasn’t mentioned, or even whispered, because it wasn’t important. Not when there was work to do, bills to pay and good grades to impress. There was struggle to be had.
Love might have been dad working to provide and mom cleaning house and making meals.
There was a movie. Love Story. It was about a man and a woman and the woman was dying of cancer. Love was sad.
Something you lose.
The first time I felt something like love was when dad brought me home a puppy. The cutest puppy in the world. That felt like joy, comfort, happiness, until I realized that someday I wouldn’t have him anymore, because he’d die.
Because love is something you lose.
The second time I felt love was on Easter. Grandpa brought me a huge milk chocolate bunny. It was almost a foot high and I sat on the floor near the bed, hiding and ate it all before dinner. I wanted that love safe, in my belly.
Because love is something that you might lose.
What did I learn about love?
Love was something that went missing. It went upstairs to the bedroom and it moaned and groaned from the pain.
Love was still in a casket. Death unexplained. I was too young to understand.
Love was painful. It hurt like hell.
And love was embarrassing. Thanks to you Bob. Love was everyone knowing about the cum all over your winter coat.
Love was shameful.
Love was losing him to a girl with big breasts. Love was carving my initials in my wrist. Love still knew that I did exist.
Then love became an obsession. It was to be chased. Love became a distant feeling that I wanted to grasp and hold and cling to.
But it kept running from me.
Love broke my heart wide open.
Love was fragile, something I wasn’t worthy of.
Now, I remove all of what wasn’t love, to something much more defined by me.
Tell me, what do you know about love?