Opening our hearts again after a breakup can be an extremely difficult thing to do, if our hearts have smashed and cracked in two.
A betrayal can make you begin to think of all of the other betrayals that lie ahead of you.
A broken heart can feel like something inside of us has died. Like a part of our beautiful, hopeful, genuine innocence has been stolen from our souls.
So how does one fall in love with life again after having been burned and broken down. How does one remove the tainted perception of suspicion and cynicism. How does one become free and fearless again?
How do we stop the deep pain and struggle that comes from the fear of being alone and abandoned?
How do we open up to risk being hurt once again.
Do we have a choice?
If we want to live a life worth living, and not one of despair, then we must try to trust again or we will continue on, with a life filled with wasted hours, waiting around preparing to be disappointed.
There is no other option but to open our hearts again. Even when we know there are no guarantees.
It’s a catch 22 really. Trust is your relationship to the unknown and well you can’t control the unknown.
Maybe, just maybe, one way to make trusting easier, is to rewrite a new history about ourselves and the pain loved caused us. To see it and feel it all differently.
Trust will come again, in time, if you let it. Trust is built when we begin to understand the world around us. Trust is a slow and steady practice of learning about the capacity of the world.