Through trial and error I have found the secret to real personal development, self-improvement and transformation is not in any book, quote, video, workshop or retreat. It is in the moment-to-moment application of new thoughts, beliefs and behavioral patterns. Transformation comes from doing what needs to be done. It starts with some stealth self-awareness taken with small steps to get honest and real with yourself . Then moving on to a firm decision to become a better version of who you are. Followed by earnestly dedicating yourself (with determination and discipline) to daily practices.
In the words of Malcom Gladwell . . .
“Success has to do with deliberate practice. Practice most be focused, determined and in an environment where there is feedback.”
Training the Mind, Body & Soul
True improvement is the result of harnessing the power of what you are reading, watching and learning into actionable things you do every single day. This is how transformation happens. This is how athletes win gold medals and actors receive Academy awards.
The Daily Practice for Building Self Worth & Self Love
Before you begin, remember, you do not have to justify your existence to anyone at all. You, right now, are perfect, just the way you are. You are a miraculous child of God and you came into this world with infinite, unlimited potential and you are tapped into the endless supply of creative energy that is continually expanding with the universe. You can stop striving to prove yourself to anyone right now and sit with the knowing that you are enough, exactly as you are. Inspired by Teal Swan. Watch her video on Self Worth, here.
My Daily Practice
I am not suggesting you follow what I do, though you absolutely can. What I recommend is you try everything and create a morning, midday and evening ritual that works for you. That works into your schedule, lifestyle and resonates with your soul.
5:00 am -6:30 am
Coffee first, 8 ounces of water, gratitude, a love letter to myself, remember what I love, reading passages from at least one or two books, studying, learning and discovering.
More often than not, I wake up with anxiety and worry. So, I have recently created my very own prayer to remind myself that everything is okay. This helps me remember what I am all about and resets my mind. You can read it here. My hope is that it inspires you to write your own prayer for the day.
6:30 -7:15 am
Meditation. Right now I have found this trippy, cosmic AF guided meditation on YouTube. Changing Your Beliefs & Perceptions resets my soul and begs me to remember what we are all made of – divine star dust and limitless powerful energy. Dr. Joe Dispenza created it but the voice over is read by Paul Babin.
7:00 – 7:15 am
Review the day. Set the intention and create the schedule, remembering to leave time for moments of shots of awe, leaning on the cheek of God, doing something that inspires you.
Edit the list. Cut half of what you thought you could accomplish by trimming down the list to your priorities.
Also leave room in the day for moments of uninterrupted time and life happenings.
7:15- 8:15 am
Move my body. Weights, Elliptical, biking, swimming, dancing. Sometimes while listening to a podcast interview James Altucher, Tim Ferriss, Tara Brach, etc.
8:15 – 9:00 am
Breakfast, blog, social and shower
As you can see, I don’t leave room in the schedule to allow myself to procrastinate because I know I will. This schedule has become engrained in my memory and I am always looking to tweak it.
9:00 to 6 pm Work. I help companies build their web presence and navigate their brand through the noisy world of social media.
6:30 pm Bikram Hot Yoga or Dance Lessons or Cycling
I note about self love. Every day I write a love letter to myself. Sometimes I also listen to my own voice on a memo on my phone.
Create a voice note on your phone with a list of the most believable reasons why you think you are enough, exactly as you are right now. Try not to start with things you may not believe just yet, like “I am enough, because I love myself”. That may be a bit much for your self deprecating brain to comprehend right now. Here is an example of my first recording.
I am enough because I care. I care about me and I care about life. I am enough because I am a miracle of God and I was born with infinite potential and I will die with infinite potential. This potential is directly linked to God and the universe.
My heart and soul are pure and one with the love of God and this makes me enough. The fact that I am a breathing, living, giving child of God makes me enough. My heart is filled with love, my intentions are pure and my desire to give back to the world is immense.
I appreciate every miraculous breath.
I search to appreciate the good in all, instead of looking for what to condem.
I am curious, open, accepting, patient, considerate, very thoughtful and I am kind. I am enough.
I am linked, tapped in, and connected to an endless supply of infinite creativity.
I am enough, just as I am.
Do what fascinates you.
What I am most fascinated with right now is working with animal spirits, plant medicine, groove dancing and cosmic meditation. I stay curious to discover what else needs a bit of investigation.