Evolving to Resolve Ourselves

There is nothing more thoughtless than a life unexamined. Make some time in your day to confront your existence. By Madeline Johnson

Three simple ways to have a more interesting and enriching life.

Tell the truth.

Say what you mean.

Don’t do things you hate.

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Thoughts about turning your

resentment into resilience.

A recipe for becoming a self-reliant, immovable force.

We all want to feel strong, empowered, confident and ready to take the world head on, but more often than not, we are a mixed bag of worry and concern about our day-to-day existence.  It’s time to make some time.

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There is nothing more thoughtless than a life unexamined. Make some time in your day to confront your existence. Think about the people and problems in your life that you believe are holding you back, weighing you down and making you miserable.

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Step 1

Separate fact from fiction. Think objectively about why you are feeling burdened. If you are bitter, angry or believe that life should be treating you better, examine that.  If your heart is hardening and you are disenfranchised with the world, proceed with intelligent caution.  Strive to understand that part of the problem might be you. Maybe you just need to grow up, mature a little.  Perhaps you are whining about your resentment towards someone, instead of truly owning and accepting your part. How can you be better, stronger, smarter about this problem? Stand up for your better self.

Step 2

Humbly face your enemies and your problems in a brave new way. Once you have sorted out the part you are playing in the anger game and you are ready to own that bit of it, you must know what you want and need and have the courage to ask for it.   You cannot move forward without first forgiving yourself and making a pact with your soul never to betray yourself again.  Next. Do the thing that most of us never want to do. Pick the right place and the right time and humbly open up and confront those who aren’t respecting you. So often we play out conversations in our heads, but we don’t actually have them. We aren’t brave enough to actually speak the words. It’s time to learn how to do just that. Let others know what you need and specifically what would make the situation better.

Step 3

Then put it down. Shed those past grievances. Release your clenching grip of control. Practice and proceed with intelligent caution. Start fresh and move forward with realistic optimism about your future.

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It Really is Your Story

Stop searching for your purpose. Whatever you’re doing,  find the meaning in that right now.  By Madeline Johnson

And no one, I mean, no one, I promise you –  no one is going to create your story for you.

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Let’s challenge ourselves shall we? Let’s question the stories we tell ourselves–  about why we are here, stuck over there, or wondering where we are headed.

Loosen up the noose around your neck.

Take a breath why don’t you.

Free yourself of fixed ideas, of old stale notions about your story.

Flip the script you’ve been writing.  It’s time for a plot twist.

The truth about your story is you get to make it up along the way.  Every day.  You are the only one to give anything any meaning in your life.  And your life can mean anything you want it to mean.

What do you care about, what do you think is important? Not for the world, not for society, but for yourself?

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Your life is anything you want it to be.

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Stop searching for your purpose. Whatever you’re doing,  find the pleasure in that thing, place, moment, right now,. . .appreciate every aspect of it, and find the meaning in it.

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Inspiration

The 10 Essential Rules For Slowing Down and Enjoying Life More by Leo Babauta

Books

Essential Zen Habits

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What do I care about, what do I think is important? Not for the world, not for society, but for myself?

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Nothing is Stopping You

Don’t make starting something new daunting. Gather the tools you need for success. Madeline Johnson

For most of us, when we decide we want to make a change, try something new, transform our ways and set our sights on brand new goals, we talk about it. We talk about it to just about anyone who will listen. We talk about how bad we want it. How it’s going to make us so much better. How great it will be when we do it. “The secret of getting ahead is getting started. The secret of getting started is breaking your complex overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks, and then starting on the first one.” Mark Twain”

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The simple stupid secret to getting where you want to go is that it’s never too soon to begin.  So you some take action and you don’t get caught up in the results. You do a little bit of it.  You start. You do one small step each hour, day, week . .. to get to the goal, the finish line. Whatever that line looks like.  15 pounds off, a new business idea, writing that damn book or maybe dating again. You begin each day with a motivated step in that direction.  And you don’t make it daunting. If you are losing weight, make sure there is healthy food in the fridge and a gym near by; if you are writing a book, get up earlier and start writing your thoughts down; gather the tools you need for success.

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What is it going to take to get to the finish line? A lot. A lot of repeated moments of practice, success, planning and failing.

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Don’t let your desire for perfection, become your procrastination. Get messy with it. Watch those micro-decisions you make throughout the day.

Read Awaken The Giant Within

Read Mark Twain: His Words, Wit and Wisdom

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Dimitra Milan

“I want my artwork to inspire people to make them feel anything is possible. I want people to understand their true identity and believe in their destiny.“

On Love, Respect and Our Dark Side

There is a wonderful part to each of us – as well as at least 200 pounds of psychic toxic waste burying that wonderful part. It is necessary for us to learn to draw nourishment into the core of all that – into what is wonderful – and slowly cultivate it and allow it to emerge.

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This will happen as we operate in an environment of love and respect. It requires an attitude of service, which in no way depreciates us.

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Rather, it uplifts everybody because we are clear-headed, practical and coming from and understanding of the unity of life.

Excerpt from

Will I Be The Hero of My Own Life?

Swami Chetanandanda

 

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Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth.

-Muhammad Ali

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Featured art work

William Blake (1757-1827)
The Great Red Dragon and the Woman Clothed with the Sun
c. 1803-1805
Watercolor, graphite and incised lines
43.7 x 34.8 cm

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A Truth thats told with bad intent 
Beats all the Lies you can invent 
It is right it should be so 
Man was made for Joy & Woe 
And when this we rightly know 
Thro the World we safely go 
Joy & Woe are woven fine 
A Clothing for the soul divine . . .
William Blake’s true God was the Human Imagination. He did not need to be saved by Christ. Rather, through the salvation of his own imagination, which allowed him to engage in right-thinking and proper actions, he was his own Christ. While Blake was a scholar of the Bible, he was a highly original thinker who created his own mythology and his own human-centered religion.

My Life Changing Winter Book List

I have a mile high list of many, many books I want to read this fall and winter. This is just a few stories up. If you’ve read any of them, let me know why you think they should be on my list (or why I should take a pass). Or better yet, maybe you have another book that I should read first. Do share.

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Book 1. Influence by Robert B. Cialdini because I need/want to stockpile my weapons of persuasion and it’s one of Scott Adam’s favorites. Scott is the creator of the comic strip Dilbert above.

Read:  Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion, Revised Edition

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Because I have read the teachings of Lucius Annaeus Seneca and Marcus Aurelius and I’m just      crushin’ on these great stoic thinkers. Show me the way.
Book 2. A Guide to the Good Life: The Ancient Art of Stoic Joy

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Book 3. Super Betterbecause who doesn’t want to be?  Read: SuperBetter: A Revolutionary Approach to Getting Stronger, Happier, Braver and More Resilient–Powered by the Science of Games

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As Victor Frankl once said: “Those who have a ‘why’ to live, can bear with almost any ‘how’.

The Purpose Driven Life is on my list because, I’m always seeking. The question of existence….. Why am I alive? The question of significance…..Does my life matter? The question of purpose……What on earth am I here for?

Book 4. Read:  The Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth Am I Here For?

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The master’s journey can begin when you try to learn any new skill.

Book 5.  Read: Mastery: The Keys to Success and Long-Term Fulfillment

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I love to cook and I have a thing for vegetables.

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Book 6. Read and Eat:  The 150 Healthiest Foods on Earth: The Surprising, Unbiased Truth About What You Should Eat and Why

I heard an interview with Derek Sivers and even though he didn’t email me back, I am still very impressed with his brain.

Book 7.  Anything You Want: 40 Lessons for a New Kind of Entrepreneur

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Book 8. How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie. Dale shares simple wisdom that really makes you think good and hard about why you’re worrying and if those things are really worth worrying about at all. And God help me do I worry about everything.

Read:  How to Stop Worrying and Start Living

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