One of the best pieces of advice I ever received. . . .
See it as it is, never bigger than it is.
Don’t over dramatize. It rarely makes anything better and usually much, much worse.
It’s similar to what the Buddha man said about the second arrow.
The Buddha once asked a student, “If a person is struck by an arrow, is it painful?” The student replied, “It is.” The Buddha then asked, “If the person is struck by a second arrow, is that even more painful?” The student replied again, “It is.” The Buddha then explained, “In life, we cannot always control the first arrow. However, the second arrow is our reaction to the first. The second arrow is optional.”
As long as we are alive, we can expect painful experiences- the first arrow. To condemn, judge, criticize, hate, or deny the first arrow is like being struck by a second arrow. Many times the first arrow is out of our control, but the arrow of reactivity is not.
I don’t know about you, but for me things are getting way too serious. It’s time to re-imagine a more playful attitude towards everything.
Floating through life gracefully
As I remember to lighten up, I want to take it a step further and suggest we learn to laugh at ourselves and our situations. Laughter has been proven to improve relationships, elevate moods, decrease stress levels and enhance creativity. So why the hell aren’t we laughing a bit more?
A sense of humor is the key to resilience. It helps you take hardships in stride, weather disappointment, and bounce back from adversity and loss.
Humor—free of hurtful sarcasm or ridicule—neutralizes conflict. We can all use a little less conflict. Agree?
- It instantly eases tension and allows you to reconnect and regain perspective.
- Shared laughter and play helps you break free from rigid ways of thinking and behaving, allowing you to see the problem in a new way and find a creative solution.
- We hear things differently, become less defensive and can tolerate learning things about ourselves that we otherwise might find unpleasant or even painful.
- Laughter opens us up, freeing us to express what we truly feel and allowing our deep, genuine emotions to rise to the surface.
Play is an attitude of the heart. Some ideas I found for today.
- Create something without the thought of succeeding or winning. Art for art’s sake. Kind of like my own mini Burning Man.
- Do something spontaneous, even if for a brief moment.
- Make up nicknames for your friends and family in your phone -add their photos.
- Collect funny books that can make you laugh. Check out –
Creepiosity: A Hilarious Guide to the Unintentionally Creepy and Tim Kreider’s We Learn Nothing: Essays
Watch this short video: How to be Alone