True transformation, real personal change, can come from a spark of inspiration or devastating disruption. When you have been so turned on that your Hell Yes becomes your mantra for mind-blowing transformation or when you have dug yourself into such a deep hole that there is no way out but a mandatory intervention of
something has to f😎king change.
That moment that transforms your mind and ignites your soul can be fueled when you follow through with relentless daily discipline and commitment.
Are you ready?
On Being Comfortably Uncomfortable
In order to evolve we must have a deep, deep, deep desire to make the transformation true and we must be committed to doing things differently than we have done before. The danger lies in falling into daily ruts and remaining stifled by how we feel.
We can get comfortably uncomfortable with the false security of rituals and habits that do not serve us well in the long game of life. We trade out comfort for the moment, doing what feels natural and safe, for what might makes us healthier and stronger in the future. It’s the sacrifices and compromises that we don’t want to do now for a stronger and more fulfilled tomorrow.
Boxing Ourselves In
This in turn limits our lives. Boxes us in. We become strangely satisfied with what the day brings and when we stop seeking and searching for improvement we fall into a sleep walking state. A trance that keeps us from improving any further.
Unraveling our Lives
If you can challenge yourself to become stronger, to feel uncomfortable, to stretch your mind and body, just a little bit every day you can unravel the state you are in.
It begins by waking up, by becoming more aware of the excuses you make for yourself and others, the annoying and recurring problems you have each day. The pain points you drown in another glass of wine or another tasty toke.
Do like those in the program. Clean up your errors. Admit your mistakes. Don’t kid yourself. Apologize and move on.
There is something absolutely energizing and almost fun when we begin to agonize over decisions and face our frustrations. Too little money, too much weight, not enough true friends, exhausting tasks at work. There is something empowering that happens to us when we face the frustration and work on each problem one at a time.
Are you doing the things that are putting you in a position to soar?
Are you preparing yourself for how you will respond when
life destroys your sense of meaning?
I am currently obsessed with developing a way to bring on an exhilarating neurostorm of enlightenment to the truth and limitless possibilities of this moment and the next.
It is what it isn’t.
I have zero respect for the status quo, for what is and for what we perceive to be the “truth”, this so-called reality. I also have distain for the phrase “it is what it is” – so much so, that I banish those that use the phrase from my mind kingdom.
No, no, no your reality right now, whatever it may be, is precisely what you have chosen it to be right now. Your reality is what you perceive it to be. Your reality is connected to your attitude and the attitude you have can completely transform whatever situation you are in right now.
“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
Read: Man’s Search for Meaning by Victor Frankl
Focusing Intently on What You are Becoming
Doing What Feels Natural isn’t Always What’s Best
Sure your habits might feel natural. You might explain your actions as something you just do, but that doesn’t make them good. Trade up your habits in favor of getting rid of what’s “natural” for you. Eat less sugar, walk a little further, smile a lot more. Raise the stage for something that’s better. Experiment with new ways of naturalness. Upgrade your life.
Undervaluing & Over Working Yourself to Death
If your frustrated and tired of not making enough money or stressed about how much you give in return for what you get, perhaps it’s time to stop undervaluing and over exerting yourself.
If you were to truly value all the gifts you give to the world, how would your world change? It is one thing to be modest and humble; it is another to have poor , low self-esteem. Do you know the difference?
Sometimes our esteem can be lifted by learning, by becoming more valuable through knowledge to have us become more confident at what we do. Remember, we don’t necessarily get paid for our time, we get paid for the value we bring to the hour.
Seek, discover and focus on yourself. A winner is someone who recognizes his talents, works his tail off to develop them into skills and uses both to accomplish goals.
Regardless of anything else, always do more than what you get paid for, and do it well. This is not undervaluing. This is doing the right thing and the right thing is always the best thing to do.
Living in Fear
I have a four year degree, but I never paid attention in history class. It was an online Coursera course with Professor Jeremy Adelman ( Director of the Council for International Teaching and Research at Princeton University) co-author of Worlds Together, Worlds Apart: A History of Humankind from Beginnings to the Present that led to a big realization.
We’ve Always Been at War
At first I as astonished at how violent our world history really was – from Genghis Khan to Adolph Hitler. I have come to accept that we have lived in perilous and troublesome times for thousands and thousands of years. Nothing has changed. There will always be disruption, pain, corruption and manipulation. It is how we deal with the pain of living, how we face our fears and obstacles that makes us who we are.
Read Ryan Holiday’s The Obstacle is the Way
Worried about your job? The stock market? Your 401K? Your worth is directly related to your philosophy, not the economy. What is your philosophy towards life? How can you improve it?
1. Focus on What You Are Becoming
Some of us can survive (for how long?) as an elemental force of chaos with supernatural charisma, sloppy planning and dumb luck. We make decisions driven by emotional reactions, petulance and paranoia and in turn we make a mess of our lives.
If you are stuck, remember your life is very malleable. The best way out of a problem you have right now is to do your best right now.
Make a decision to set goals – what people do you want to meet, books you want to read, places you want to go, experiences you want to have. . .
If you dare to change, everything will change for you. Adopt a new vision as your truth. When mankind decided we would fly, we flew.
Distort your reality field. Imagine you, only different.
Sure we can all use more money, good friends and less worry. For one day, forget about what you need and focus on what you are becoming.
2. Ask Better Questions
In the age of smartphones, Google and Quora, answers are a dime a dozen and very easy to find. Forget about the answers. If you want to solve the bigger problems, ask better questions. Start with “What if . . .”
What if I took that online course? What if I said I was sorry? What if I joined the gym?
3. From Emotional Pain to Physical Embodiment
Don’t be so focused on your work that your ignore signals of your body. Especially stomach issues.
4. Getting into The Flow State
Supercharging your thoughts is a healthier way to stage yourself for altered states of being.
Get out of the every day. Take on new experiences, new places, new spaces, transcend the ordinary. Rest, relax, seek novel experiences and environments. Disconnect and reconnect with your child-like mind. Rediscover the place of wonderment. Get into a state of unbelievable lucidity. Chase experiences that put you in the zone.
Try it. For one day, give everything you’ve got into everything you do.
5. Plus, Minus, Equal
Find three important people in your life. A mentor, a partner and someone to inspire.
6. New Definition of Billionaire
Become a billionaire. Someone who positively effects the lives of a billion people.
7. Your Mental Diet
Stand guard at the doorway of your mind. Feed your brain delicious food. A few inspiring books, blogs and people I have been consuming this past week.
Jason Silva’s Seeker a dose of knowledge to help you make sense of what is happening in the world around us.
Steve Job’s 10 Rules for Success.
Why it’s important to always stay a student, Ryan Holiday author of The Ego is the Enemy.
Life advice from the mentor to the masters, Jim Rohn
Wait but why? one of my favorite new blogs. Check out this post on building a mental swiss army knife.
The sky is not the limit, but your mind absolutely is.
Where there is an open mind, there will always be a new frontier.