During times like these when the world seems like an increasingly hostile place the disillusionment we feel in our hearts may ignite the desire to disconnect, isolate and retreat from others.
We might be starving for deep conversation but avoid so many opportunities to connect. We shy away from many topics – relationships, politics, the environment, economics – because we are so divided. We dare not stir things up or cause confrontation.
Be that as it may, we are innately social creatures, hardwired to seek each other out and profoundly shaped by our relationships.
So how can we keep our relationships fresh? In a time when so many are divided, perhaps we can start by adding some love to our language.
Seriously, when moments need mending, we might ask ourselves, What would love do?
Well for starters love might connect with a smile, send out a compliment and turn up the positive energy.
Love might seek to build rapport with others – looking for ways to connect with commonality – instead of repelling each other with problems and differences.
What would love do?
Love would tell a joke, laugh a little more, aim to lighten up hearts.
Love is bold and remains courageously open and admits vulnerability.
Love knows that while you are not going to get along with everyone you can adjust your expectations and maintain a level of respectful decorum.
Love is more civil and rises above the irrational.
The language of love remains calm and it doesn’t engage with just anything. Love never gets emotionally hijacked.
Love maintains a perspective and melts into this very moment, one beat at a time.
Love leans in and innately knows that people are covering up. Love looks for clues in every thing said and unsaid.
Super Inspiring Atlas of Emotions
The Atlas of Emotion was commissioned by the Dalai Lama, his purpose is “ In order to find the new world we needed a map, and in order for us to find a calm mind we need a map of our emotions”. The simple, but not easy, goal of this Atlas is to help us be aware of our emotions. Awareness of our emotions means understanding how they are triggered, what they feel like and how we respond. Awareness itself is a strategy, it helps us understand our emotion experiences